Give him room to grow

Even when you're married, you and your husband are growing, not only as a couple, but as individuals. As wives, we are supposed to be their emotional safe place. We are to make it to where they can relax, rest, think, and be themselves. We must give them room to grow. We should create an atmosphere where the process can proceed. Men need a safe haven. Austin works in a very loud, stressful environment, and he is a very calm, quiet human being. He doesn't enjoy being in a loud environment-needless to say, he doesn't like to go to parties but once or twice a year! As women, we tend to want to know everything before it happens, and then we want to know exactly how it went. We can make work stressful for our men just by asking about it! When he first gets home, don't give him the Spanish Inquisition. We like to take every free moment and talk. By doing that, we've in turn made coming home stressful. instead of looking forward to leaving work to come and see their wives, they're looking forward to getting away from work and home. Now, by "room to grow" I do not mean ignoring him for the first hour when he gets home, and then bombarding him with relentless questions of "how was work?" and "what exactly did you eat for lunch???" Allow him time to tell you for once! *gasp* I've learned that there is a right and wrong time to talk about stressful situations with my man. I'm doing my best to learn how to create a safe, warm, food-filled home for Austin. It nourishes his soul, himself, and our relationship. He needs our home to be a place of relaxation; a place of love; a place full of all of his needs. I don't want him looking elsewhere for these things.